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I think I'm going to go on wikibreak for awhile (i.e. switch off email notifications); I find this whole blocking situation kinda demoralizing/depressing. Regrettably, this kind of stuff seems to happen on every wiki I've ever used. It reminds me of my recent relationship; I keep thinking, "Isn't there a way that intelligent people who have a lot of the same goals and values can resolve this stuff, or at least make more of an effort to calmly discuss and maybe, at minimum, learn something" but sometimes the answer seems to be no. And the person saying no puts 100% of the blame on the other person's behavior as being the reason why they said no. | I think I'm going to go on wikibreak for awhile (i.e. switch off email notifications); I find this whole blocking situation kinda demoralizing/depressing. Regrettably, this kind of stuff seems to happen on every wiki I've ever used. It reminds me of my recent relationship; I keep thinking, "Isn't there a way that intelligent people who have a lot of the same goals and values can resolve this stuff, or at least make more of an effort to calmly discuss and maybe, at minimum, learn something" but sometimes the answer seems to be no. And the person saying no puts 100% of the blame on the other person's behavior as being the reason why they said no. It becomes impossible to even have a productive meta-discussion about how to have better discussions. | ||
People get so emotionally triggered that they go into fight-or-flight mode and can't listen, think creatively, or have a sense of humor about the situation. In reality, there often is no emergency that requires drastic action for protection of oneself or the community, but people act as though there is. Even an expressed disagreement gets perceived as a threat. | People get so emotionally triggered that they go into fight-or-flight mode and can't listen, think creatively, or have a sense of humor about the situation. In reality, there often is no emergency that requires drastic action for protection of oneself or the community, but people act as though there is. Even an expressed disagreement gets perceived as a threat. | ||
A person gets labelled as "bad person" or "untrustworthy person" or whatever and then all their actions are regarded with suspicion as probably malevolently intended. But people are more complex than these archetypes of heroes and villains. Even those who have hurt us tend to have something to offer, that we can often salvage without opening ourselves up too much to harmful betrayal. [[User:Leucosticte|Leucosticte]] ([[User talk:Leucosticte|talk]]) 14:52, 23 September 2014 (UTC) | A person gets labelled as "bad person" or "untrustworthy person" or whatever and then all their actions are regarded with suspicion as probably malevolently intended. But people are more complex than these archetypes of heroes and villains. Even those who have hurt us tend to have something to offer, that we can often salvage without opening ourselves up too much to harmful betrayal. [[User:Leucosticte|Leucosticte]] ([[User talk:Leucosticte|talk]]) 14:52, 23 September 2014 (UTC) | ||